Help a Friend | Student Health Services | SIU

How to help a friend

If you know someone who has been a victim of sexual harassment, sexual misconduct, dating violence, domestic violence, sexual assault or stalking there are three simple things you can do to help.

Hear what they’re saying and acknowledge that it is difficult to talk about abuse. Allow them to tell their story in their own time, in their own way, and in their own words. Use active listening skills like making eye contact and maintaining open body language to show them you are listening.

Offer them options or assist them in finding help. Remember to allow them space to make their own decisions and to respect their choices. This may mean that your friend may choose not to seek help, report abuse, or leave an abusive relationship.

Support your friend by letting them know that you believe them and that you will be there for them.